Not this time. I feel i filed my husband why did he ride me down and sought me out just to destroy me and throw me away . I did not even hound her about it, and actually was pretty cool about the whole thing. Early in our relationship my ex hubby wanted to get back together and he said while he loved me, he understood that my children needed their dad and if it was something I wanted he would step aside for the sake of my family. Putting down all the positives I was doing. It may sound cliche, but when the person who has been abused is finally out of the relationship, they are so brainwashed, emotionally damaged, and hopeless that they feel they might not be able to go on. Once you finish going through the detox phase, which includes massive cravings for your narcissist, feelings of despair and emptiness (caused by a depletion of the hormone, oxytocin,) and the . I would never be happy with such a childish, inresponcible Narcist. I went no contact, although not right away. I listen I watch but I just see his weakness and, regardless of this, his attempt to appear respectable. The narcissistic sociopathic traits are from genetic factors, as I never was devoid of attention, had a happy life, and no trauma. Basically, she was a runner. She ran away from all her problems and responsibilities. The narcissists jealousy may even lead them to try and sabotage your new relationship by spreading rumors about you or your new partner. I think I triggered something during my visit that was seen as critical of him. Thought of ruining and losing my family and friends, makes me strongly to desire to change my behaviour. He seemed to need to be perceived as perfect in my eyes. I knew eventually I would have to give him that internet and satellite equipment but I was going to make him wait for it. I cannot describe the way he wrote me, how he behaved, all those words to make me feel so small. I tried to raise issues I had with the relationship (i.e. The time line fits the puzzle. Available in ebook, paperback, and hardback! I also have a special needs child and my ex is telling her that i am an alcoholic which of course is not true, but see similarities, so she thinks she needs to protect him because she is fighting her demons and he has triangulated her, the perfect target, she can try attack me which comes from her issues and he gets off on that. Oh, and this girl clearly sleeps around a lot. I love hearing myself say these things as I imagine how they sound to you, and how enthralled with me I imagine you are. I believed him at first. Yes he stopped initiating contact. Of course, there is still a lot to doubt and discuss. Remember, they start our trying to be what you want and then show their true colors over time. Were both the same age. But yes, I agree that both men and women with narcissistic disorders cause massive amounts of damage to the ones that cared for them. But in the end, I was just used as a reference so she could copy, and a mirror so she could see herself. I also have a lot of rage and I am so cynical and pessimistic of everything .I think I have ptsd. I know I have to end it although it is easier said than done. We cannot rely on them to make that decision. The dynamic is different from normal in so far as this is a group of people who take part in a sport I dont actually have to specifically spend time with this person but he is always there an omnipresence and vocal with it as you would expect its all about him the notion that he is as I suspect him to be is quite unambiguous. Firstly above all. He said basically, youre describing a sociopath; Im not a liar and Im not crazy. More posts from r/NarcissisticAbuse No Warning, No Reasoning, No Closure, No Contact This seems to be true no matter what has happened before. I broke up with him and cut off contact, but got back in touch with him I said it was to see if we could be friends but really it was because not talking to him was absolutely agonising. Because in most cases, they will never admit they have a problem. I stricktly wrote him never never to contact me again. Nign mounths for you is very long time. Well, the check never came, and she proceeded to ignore my text/calls and then blocked me from her facebook page. Actually THE NEXT DAY (imagine what he felt), and the community too. There were a couple of woman that would come in and out of is life as a close friend to him. Thank you for mentioning Upturned Souls blog Shes brilliant! I hate this "man". What makes him so special? Only 6 weeks after his move, then only responded by text for 4 months, never spoke to me about breaking up, then posted a pic of him and new GF on FB and never texted or spoke to me again. Who does that? What do you think? He plays chess with people. The problems between us also caused him to pull away from my daughter who had only known him since her birth, after our marriage and we all came to live together their relationship crumbled as well, come the first birth of our 2 daughters together their relationship had completely dissolved. Then he moved in as a flatmate and we were good friends (so I thought). I am now working my way up from a breakup. Mothers of their children, doesn't matter. It got that bad . And they seem to come back as if nothing happened. I have cut contact from him again (following several arguments culminating in him threatening to contact the police because I apparently disrespected him); but it has been getting difficult to keep the ties cut, but this article has motivated me to stay away from his damaging behaviours and to have more respect for myself. This man was my first boyfriend and first kiss when we were growing up together. When he dated her, he attended her annual family outings. Typically, people who seek professional help do so because they have a level of self-awareness thats given them insight into their mental and emotional state. I have gone so far as to delete his name and all pictures from my iPad. Hes only thinking about her and himself. It was not so much the fact that she had not yet paid me the money. It is tough. Thats the weakness of women who loves so much. There is a hidden message in everything they say. Or if he apologizes he expects everything to immediately go back to normal. You dont want to attract another narc!!! I have since found out that all the abuse that she told me she had suffered at the hands of every man she had been in a relationship with was a complete lie to rope me in. I dont mean telling the kids the gory details cuz that would only hurt them but when they ask you can certainly say some high level stuff. That last part may not be healthy, but thats where I am now. The relationship with the Narc causes a biochemical addiction, in addition to the brainwashing of our psyche. And finally, I was stupid enough to let her borrow $3,000 to help her pay off her automobile. Want to know more? Regardless of who broke up, it was your fault. Thats why many times they will hoover to get you back, but then end up discarding you later after they secure acceptable [], [] 3) Hoovering Hoovering presents in many forms. In the meantime, he had my internet and satellite services turned off and I knew it wouldnt be long that he would try to contact me to get the equipment, cause the fees are high if these places dont get back their equipment. She brought it up, and seemed happy that she was going to be sending me half of it. I hope its the latter for you! Before that a 8 year normal husband. He has distraction. I went to court house for EPO and they couldnt do it, because he was silent for a week and wasnt threatening me etc. After days of intense greeve and tears mostly for the big quetions of this relation.. he came and told me he has something with a man. A narcissist will never allow you to escape, let alone figure them out. That is what I meant when I say this type is often harder to get over. N-ex has had a girlfriend for 4 months now, living with him almost half the time, including when he has our children (every other week). Anonymous, I guess some people could do that. Unfortunately, we are the ones who need to leave. The best thing to do is be yourself and let the Narc back himself into a corner. Hi Jan, thanks for sharing your experience. How difficult this would be for you. It took me 48 years to finally go to NC. But be aware of the specially predatory religious narcissist. The narcissist will tell you they dont know why the person is contacting them. I will survive. We both need to move on. The next day, Sunday, Im sitting on my laptop with my phone on the arm of my chair and it goes off; I look at itits the ex. This is a terrible blow to the narcissists self-esteem, and it will activatenarcissistic rage. For the life of me, I cant figure it out. We have two children together and he is a Deputy, his days with the girls are drop ins. Block him and move on. Her sickness is ALL HER. If I have a problem he is good because of course they always know the right things to say. So even when they have taken literally everything else from us, we still have the ability to Love. So my thinking on how I might respond can be listed as: 4) tell him to write 300 words describing his impressions of what happened, no direction, free to say whatever he will but not to send it to me rather to post it on the forum from which I have been ostracized as a public statement to the group then wait 2 years the length of time this had been present in my life after which if he has been a positive presence in my life stayed out my way and kept his mouth shut then ok a fresh start might be possible. She would constantly leave me, make me beg, then come back promising me the world and how I was the love of her life she wanted to get married, have babies etc. I went from the frying pan to the fire!! Anyhow, Im glad both of you men are posting here. We do that because we are looking for closure and validation. Natural Remedies for Bipolar or Borderline Personality Disorder. Any other advise would be greatly appreciated. all of the way its expressed and conveying true meaning of this relationship dynamic. Ah, just whispering, or secretive etc. but my guess is that men are used to going into their shells with their pain maybe? Basically, If you don't like the way things are or who he is, then leave. Im trying hard to remain civil here, I wish there were a way to warn young adults against these predators. The female narc will demean and disrespect you and treat you like dirt and say that you are the mean one. yesterday said that he didnt want me to agree to living apart and it was a mind game and he said it was exactly what it was and that I just jumped right on board. I wish you all well in finding your inner peace! I said what is there to be scared of. He said he gets bored easily.. You will never have a nice, clean ending. So why the happy birthday text, then now when he saw me looking sexy, he has no communication? She started all this (I obeyed her all the time), but looking back, she was like this my whole life. Twist a story to their advantage as if their the victim, and yet, their the culprit. We got back together and she told me it was over with the other guy because he had a temper and used drugs. Is that possible with a family that is as religious as you guys? It seems like the moment you start realizing he is not the person you thought he was, they notice and begin to pull back, resent you, and switch the blame on you. I just started reading an article one day about Narcissism and felt like I was reading my life. I have an IQ of 150, have never done drugs in my life (not even pot) and do not have any mental disorders. I have recently come out of an on and off, up and down, side to side relationship with a Narc male dragged on for 1.5 years. 1. Narcissists keep us tethered to them by something we cant explainuntil either they or we cut the cord for good. And yes, lack of boundaries and low self-esteem ARE common denominators. Such a saint of a man, right? As with all emotions, it can be used positively or negatively. I dont know if he is a psychopath or a narcissist but his past seem to be respecting all over again. Has a woman ever had you in fear for your life and the life of your children purely by her brute strength? She is very convincing to others and that is why the distance must remain permanent. When they try to come back onto the scene after a long stretch of silence, they have been scheming. Never thought Id walk from her, she was so different . Relationships with narcissists have a cycle to them that plays out again and again. I actually see that my relationship with this person has made me more determined to win by being the best me! The more I read about narcissists, the more I am amazed at what I put up with and how deeply I was manipulated. Id never met her friends October 09, 2013. by Lisa Thomson. Your email address will not be published. I know logically who he is (the therapist who we had seen together informed me the other day that my ex is actually very sociopathic and rare and this is a guy whose specialty is abusive, angry men)so I know on paper who and what he isyet WHY cant I get him OUT of my heart? Whats wrong with me. So, the narcissist will think things like, Finley truly worshipped me like the angelic being that I am, Charlies got some work to do. Then theyll start calling and texting you, trying to gain access to some of that good supply once more. So for four weeks, it was the first week I dont want you, next week he did, vice versa. But everywhere i go there is something thats remainds me of or laughter, our same thinking and taste of everything. 3. My ex has gone so far as to contact my son, who is a grown man, because I have gone no contact. Yes I believe that a Narcissist can be beat at their own game. There was no intimate way of the two of them in the pictures, but she also emailed him how fun it would be to get a hotel room together in Daytona for an upcoming show. If you can't beat them join them. She wants to be my friend because of how she thinks my presence serves as one of her ideal actors in the movie that is her life. I was in love with the way he made me feel. They get satisfaction from watching us suffer. He replied, you need to move on with your life as I have. The only reason why they would want their ex back is that they know theyre an easy source of supply. He texted me as a friend. Now he refuses to move out and keep professing to take his stuff out. It is 5 chapters but very short. Im not going to lie, for the first time in a long time, i actually felt that love and heartbreak feeling when thinking about never seeing and talking to her again. Thanks for sharing. I wouldnt say he destroyed my faith in love, but he definitely shook it and Im even a more guarded gay man now (as if so many of us arent guarded and insecure enough). after 3 month no contact this is what he said in a private message on FB: I miss jXXX (grandchild). I am in the middle of my Ph. Jamie, if I were in your shoes, I would file a restraining order, citing the information you shared here. He recently was fired from his bar-tending job and had to crawl back to his old one and now will be asking Do you want white rice or pork fried rice with your Mongolian Beef as a waiter because he got DE-moated and is no longer working the bar. to know how to deal with them. Months later he emailed me saying he wanted to connect. Later I learned he was an x-con by doing research. It has not at all been my intention to hurt you in any way, and I really do want the best for you. A few days ago he blocked me againthe fourth or fifth time. She recently moved in with him, I believe. I am a woman who has been in two abusive relationships and has alcoholic parents I fit perfectly into Robin Norwoods definition of a Woman who Loves Too Much. And I really think he may be a narc. And its hard to live with. He thought it was funny when he wrapped his legs around me neck and squeezed and I started to try and get him to stop, slapping my breast over and over until it had red dots all over it for days. We all die alone. I signed away rught to sue the cityand had a record of spousal abuse. Thank you for this.. Dear Ellen, After a couple of relationships he finally met Kym on a dating website and they made plans to move in together, except the date to move in got longer and longer He ended up giving me one days notice and left me a mess and in debt, oh and a fishtank full of dead fish and his cat too.. Ive left out a few things but I didnt hear from him (except from his FB posts with Kym on their trip through Asia and Europe) and didnt want to and was relieved that he had moved out.. -Financial Exploitation. Just the other days one the ladies that works with me said its nice to get the old you back meaning I am just starting to be my old self again and it feels really good. That made him burn the phone line up even more. You dont want to touch that and those diseases. I feel as though he is masking and hiding behind her to numb the pain of me leaving the marriage. I dont acknowledge her birthday or anniversary. 4. He cant put up with that. We victims should stick together and not pit males against females. Congrats on ur joirney to recovery, Your email address will not be published. I realized that all my love could not counter his dark side, so I left. I dont answer. While I have engaged with him a few times on social media in the last year since that happened, he hasnt made any serious attempt to get back together with me, although hes alluded to being friends. If I didnt still have all his e-mails proving what I am saying then I would end up believing his bullshit and lies. I found out of her web of lies when discussing the issues with mutual friends that had loyalty to me. Theyre the ones who do the dumping. So they make a mental note that feeding you a dose of guilt got the job done, so they throw in some more. Or there are the exs who the narcissist discarded, and theyre still nursing a broken heart. Whatever you decide to do, I hope you find peace and the strength to forgive yourself for the things you have done and to move forward with this new insight into yourself so that you begin to recognize that its never too late to strive to be your best self. The borderline traits answers a lot of questions for me. WOW! I need it. for ex., they dont diagnose children. [Read: What is Hoovering? Not an emotional goodbye. In a weird, petty way I"m satisfied by that because it means he's been checking up on my profile. Now that was somethingIf I ever had doubts about him, I dont have them anymore. Well, he is now seeing another woman up the street from me. The fact that she told me what a nice guy this person is makes me wonder why he has not been used up as well. No contact is your control over this, but the Narc will be back. You know that it wouldnt be in your best interest. I found out two days before I was going to move in with him. You are smart, nurturing, loyal, dependable, wise, passionate, faithful, powerful, beautifully feminine, affectionate and gorgeous, just to name a few of your qualities! Reading Suggestion: The Narcissist Discard phase. She hasnt shed a tear since I walked out after finding out about the affair. The best way to get rid of a Narc once and for all is no contact. What she did do was lie, manipulate, triangulate relationships, curt me off a handful of times, etc. Last year, an ex-colleague started to woo me. I mean, why the hateraid? And because you keep taking him back. And make no mistake: the BPD will be laughing/orgasming with their Newest Vessel as you plummet to your death. I could, I miss you terribly . If you left because you could no longer handle the cycle of abuse, they only treated you that way because your actions forced them to. This man was very materialistic with me, loved the best of everything and now he is willing to go bankrupt. IF its true, and that is a BIG IF, she may just stroke his emotional ego sooo much that he doesnt care. It has been 9 months. What an incredible article. After months of drama and him being distant (but at the same time saying he loved me and that he wanted to grow old with me), I broke up with him. I recently divorced one after 20 years (I met him when I was 13 and divorced after ten years of marriage) and getting into another relationship that was the same..only Im 30 weeks pregnant. They may even have tried to use manipulative techniques to keep us in the relationship, such as threatening to hurt themselves or to hurt us. The claws they hook into you are insane. It hurts and its much easier and feels exteme happy if i should react. Sorry to keep asking probably irrelevant questions. Answer (1 of 4): First of all, I recognize that you have feelings: you feel sad about being away from someone you cared about. . It s like the N just get a little to charming, romantic, a little to in love, acting to helpfull etc.Just always something over the top. He claimed that I shouldnt harden myself and that he was one of the good guys. I sought therapy for the first time in my entire life after I left my N. I felt like I was losing my mind! I received a similar email when he left me for a new victim. He text back I need that equipment. I exhibited classic behaviour traits of the disorder, such as high ergo, irrational thoughts, anger at some issues, believing I was competitive while it relay was insecurity, believing that I was correct which was wrong c, poor listening skills, went from one unfinished project to another, disregard for some of the rules, poorly designed projects, stealing even if I did not want the object, was a hoarder, addictions to food and went from one research group to another when a project needed skills (opportunity to myself). Reply . Which is dumb, but I still find myself wondering. He attempted a hoover January 2020. If they say how are you? Do not reply good nothing no contact. It took this woman repeatedly telling me that I was abused for me to get it. He could be very supportive and I joked that he was a woman whisperer a kind of guy that there was some reciprocity there he could listen just as well as he would talk. I miss my son so badly. Funny enough, that story I truly do not believe period. Change ur phone number, block his email and think of ur son as you do these things. I think this time finally he gets it. I am simply thinking about this non stop. Rod man interesting on your borderline comment. Thanks for this post it boils it down so clearly. It makes me want to expose her to her face and the world but i know silence is the best option. or wherever he was getting his rocks offthat i couldnt tell youwell, admittedlyi flew into a rage and saw redthat night as he slept, i decidedly, without words, wanted to express to him my new found discovery of his hidden true colors by taking a large Vaseline Jar to his yummy treasures hed been enjoyingbc he certainly wasnt enjoying mei put on a glove and swabbed it with a huge goop of the greasy mixture and smeared it all over the inside of this gym bagYou might be saying to yourself, that was a little high-schoolish and immature and irresponsible, well maybe but I suppose i had reached a point of now return and this was my breaking point after years of abusebut in hindsight, he couldve killed me for pulling a stunt like thatI will never forget the 5am reaction while i lay motionless and breathless in my bedi heard him rise, get ready for his ritualistic morning routine for getting to the gym, the sound of movement became less vague, more pronouncedthen under-your-breath slurs shes a bitchheavy foot-steps, then a crash thru my locked bedroom doorgrabbed me out of my bed and thru me against the walltook both hands and smashed everything on my bureau mirrored vanityglass everywherethen looked me straight in the eye with his hands tightened around my neck and announces.your outta hereheavy abuse followed this incident which was planned and premeditated in getting me evicted from my home we shared even so far as to accuse my mental state, which i have to admit was affected by this mans abuse by pushing me past my limits which is what would happen to any sane person at the hands of a NARC like thisnot long after this occurred he set me up and had police arrest me under the guise i was a harm to myself and my child which he used as leverage and weaponry to execute his planhow sick someone could do this to another human being is beyond me while never being able to admit it is himself that is the damaging element in this volatile relationship, all along! Hope it helps. He changed his number, his job, got himself a girlfiend, a house together, holidays, cars, boys toys, all the while I struggled to live daily and raise our kids. If you are a really good person, keep being that person, even start volunteering to put good out there to block our her negativity on you or start a small business or craft stall that is totally yours and be proud of you. .they disappear after they have disclosed too much. Thankyou for your advice. You may feel obsessed with the idea that by going back over every word and action that took place between you, you can see into the future. He was a chubby boy with glasses who grew up to be a very handsome man. You cant control the narcissist or know what he or she is thinking. It was insanely deep how she made others perceive me. He said that even though he stays there, he sleeps on her couch and its a place to stay. They love the attention whether bad or good. . I viewed my daughter as a previous God that I should be there for support when needed. Did the narcissist ever tell you about exes in their past that they wanted nothing to do with? Think about it, we still Love them, even after everything awful & unforgivable that they have ever said & done to us, we still can & do Love them. Theyll try and convince you that your friendship would be perfect, you might not have worked out as lovers, but youd sure make the best of friends. They just dont get it. proclamations of us even though one has made it clear there is no US (dont know if FREEATLAST did too, but noticed same wording in her exs letter), And then there is, of course, his Christian concern that I be relieved of my bitterness and anger (on the surface sounds like good things)but meanwhile not genuinely acknowledging the tragic and deeply wounding things he did to me to cause any bitterness or anger. I nicely asked him for respect and told him what he was doing was verbally abusive. In this case, since youre saying you dont want to be friends anymore, hell remind you that hes got something on you that could destroy you. Yet so ready to embrace a new lease on life . My genuine hope and prayer is that you continue to truly receive it, and be set free from the anger, resentment and bitterness. Because we did everything together there is a lot of memories. EVERYTHING THEY DO IS FOR SOME JUSTIFIABLE REASON. Anyway, I never got a response from my last text and Im sure exs buddies got on the horn and passed the word that this man was driving my car. I tried to contact him at first with no luck, Then I did no contact for 60 days, nothing. I am the ho, bitchI am not getting any help and find it very hard to ask for help. Matt, I obviously dont know you personally but I can guarantee you one thingI WOULD NEVER TREAT YOU LIKE THAT. Weird stuff that I havent experienced before. So if your narcissistic ex-partner calls threatening to take their life, theyre more than likely pulling your bluff in hopes that youll feel so sorry for them and be so worried that theyll actually do it, you come running back. They are so patient like a wild animal waiting to strike. He begged for me to talk to him and not loose hope, promised it would never happen again and I ignored him. She looks beautiful and I lost that or I dont even know if he really *saw* me, as in the way I looked, like maybe he noticed those passion marks and now he know Im no longer sitting around crying like he *thought* I might be, still brokenhearted. But the clincher is, he didnt know that I knew he ended their friendship..and during our last big argument he tried to say that they have a bond that most ppl wouldnt understand. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. 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